An Insurmountable "Lei Chi" In The Workplace.

Office scene 1: Xiao Ke works in an advertising agency. There are more female employees in the office. So Xiao Ke wants to make the office atmosphere lively after work.

When he was in University, he liked to talk about some meat and children. His friend told him that the so-called "men and women collocation is not tiring work". The main reason is that when a man and woman work together, telling a yellow joke can stimulate the human sexual nerve, produce a substance called hormone, and work naturally and enthusiastically.

Xiao Ke believed in this truth.

So, no matter in the working space, or with colleagues to eat and play together, he likes to talk about some yellow jokes.

He also played a lot of trouble with his female colleagues. In short, in his words, "the relationship between colleagues is intimate."

The female colleagues were far away from him, and their male colleagues felt that he had been a big fan in the women's heaps and destroyed the ecological balance between the two sexes in the office.

In short, he was slowly isolated but did not know.

Until the end of the year, the office director wanted to raise a staff member as assistant director. Xiao Ke was able to work well. This position was not his job. But when the unit was conducting a public opinion poll, the leader did not know where he heard Xiao Ke was "frivolous and not dignified". After careful consideration, he gave the job to someone else.

At this time, your performance will impress your colleagues and even your boss. Even if you change later, their understanding of you is still deeply rooted in the impression you first gave them.

Therefore, even if you speak "Huang Duzi", it is not appropriate to say something properly, but if you do not grasp this level, it will easily give people the impression of frivolity.

In the first month of work, we should establish a mature and stable image. Otherwise, once the impression is formed, it will be difficult to change and affect the long-term development in the workplace.

Office scene two: when a boy goes to a new unit, he often shows some masculinity, fighting for physical work and showing respect for the staff.

To be able to work in TV station, ah Feng is very excited and decides to work hard to improve himself.

Every day he scrambled for water in the office and mopped up the floor. If anyone was missing something, he immediately helped to buy it for the sake of courtesy.

As time goes on, female colleagues gradually get used to his meticulous care.

Once, a female colleague shouted loudly to help him to buy a packet of "sanitary napkins" and made other female colleagues laugh loudly.

Sometimes, this phone call says, "ah Feng, you can help me to add a class tomorrow, OK? I have to date my boyfriend."

That said: "ah Feng, you help me to go to the library to find information, I'm almost exhausted."

All in all, ah Feng is like a firefighter. Although he is not willing, he thinks it would be even worse if he offended his colleagues. So he had to work hard to help others.

At the same time, he did not work well because of his lack of time and energy. After a month, his assessment result fell to the bottom second.

If you do not help others to control within a reasonable range, simply tolerate, move to the situation will condone the convenience of other people's enjoyment, so they will continue to trouble you.

What you need to do is to promptly and politely and properly reject their demands and defend their principles when they have just launched the idea of "public and private unknown". Naturally, no similar thing will happen.

The key is that you must behave yourself and let others feel that you are helping them because you respect them, not because you are weak and weak.

Why can't I fall in love?

But Qiu Dawei, who works for an advertising agency, is always obsessed by office romance.

Qiu Dawei, twenty-four, graduated from university last year and later came to the advertising agency. He was 1.86 meter handsome and handsome. He fell in love with Joey at first sight third months after he came to the company.

Each other has a good impression, but first of all, it is based on the attraction of appearance, like a lyric saying, "women love natural and handsome, men love beautiful". This kind of love based on goodwill can not stand the test of real life.

The reason is that Joey loves to rise vigorously, often in the office, cold and Qiu Dawei and a sweet little action, making Qiu Dawei in the eyes of the public, embarrassed.

For a long time, other colleagues had a strong opinion that they regarded the office as a private love garden, which affected other people's normal work.

For instance, she would make some inexplicable little temper to Qiu Dawei, and then Qiu Dawei would humbly make her happy.

At first Qiu Dawei was patient and tolerant of miss Joey's temper. But after a long time, he began to feel tired.

Later, they began to argue fiercely until they ended up breaking up.

Although it is hurt by love, after all, the old love is still in existence, and it is impossible to forget it completely. So the two men have to face up to their cheesy faces, but there are always some of them in their hearts. So every day when they enter the office, Qiu Dawei is a victim.

He wanted to quit his present job, but the job was hard won.

If you do not quit, you will feel like you are living in the same age.

Xiao Wen, who works at a network company, says that he will visit the street every month and buy some suitable clothes for himself. He is polite and elegant, and is the object of the customer's love.

In some traditional men's eyes, he thought that he was too heavy and heavy as a girl. So, Xiaowen replied, "is it like a man to say TMD all day?"

The traditional masculinity holds that a man is not a member of the rules, and the image of a rude word jumping out of his mouth has become a thing of the past. In today's workplace, men need to sit in the writing room and negotiating table more often. Every move can affect their career.